Married Men and 20 Costly Mistakes They Make

In this piece, we will be looking at the flip side of my earlier article titled 16 COSTLY MISTAKE MARRIED WOMEN MAKE. Like I wrote earlier, the purpose of these write-ups is to help our marriages become better. Many marriages are in crisis today become many married people have deviated from what God intended marriage to be. What is you see today are marriages as men want it and not marriages as God intended it.There are many costly mistakes married men make and these are some of them;1.As the spiritual head of the home, when was the last time you led your family (wife and children) in prayers? Yes, your wife also can lead prayers also but are you doing enough spiritually for your marriage and family?2.Comparing your wife with your ex, especially for those that did many ‘permutation’ and ‘combination’ with many ladies whilst single is a sign that you have not left your past.3.Condemning your wife’s meal, soup, stew as you compare it to that of your ex-gilrfriend, ex-wife or your mother.4.The private things that happen in your marriage that you tell your family members will ultimately create a negative impression and perception of her. Ultimately, you will also reap what you sow as her husband.5.Not acknowledging or paying for your wife’s hair and personal make up and appearance. You don’t like her appearance yet you are not paying for her to look good.6.Mr Husband, your mouth odour, your body odour, your dirty boxers and socks are serious put-off to your spouse. Take a little time to wash, to tidy up yourself. She probably may have even told you but you get offended. Mr, there are truth nobody will tell you except your wife!7.Husband, your 2 minute expulsion is serious punishment for your wife. If she has told you, please change. If she has not complained, she is merely enduring. A sexually and emotionally dissatisfied wife is an unhappy wife!8.Sex in marriage ought not to be boring. But yours is boring because you want it only at your own time and not at a more conducive time to both parties.9.Your wife is not a slave. You need to assist with house chores. And if you think you are too big for the chores get technological tools that can help and a house-help to support. A distressed wife is a stressed wife!10.It is selfishness to keep your educated and skilled wife idle at home. It does not matter how much you earn, how much you pay or give her, she also has a dream to fulfil in life. There is greater joy in marriage when both husband and wife are fulfilled! Support her dream!!11.Getting intimidated by your wife’s achievement, career and business successes is a reflection of your insecurity and low self-esteem. Your wife’s achievement should be a thing of pride to you also and not of intimidation!12.It just does no make sense to be suspecting your wife. How can you become a detective in your home and expect to have joy and fulfilment?13.Yes, the Bible instruct that wives should submit to their husbands but you have turned submission to subjugation. You have become a terror to your wife!14.Beating up your wife no matter what she did wrong is not a prove of your seniority, masculinity, or manhood, instead it is a show of your immaturity and irresponsibility.15.There is no time that you are ever home with your wife and children even on public holidays. When your business or job ends, will you still have a wife and children to be proud of. Your wife and children need you more than money and toys that you buy for them!16.Engaging in extra-marital affair that can never ever give you joy and fulfilment. Extra-marital affair is an unprofitable venture. You loose spiritually, you loose physically, you loose financially. By the time you loose your wife and children, you are the biggest looser of all!17.How can you be attracted to your wife’s maid, sisters or her friends? What is attracting you in them that your wife don’t have? Have you discussed those things with your wife in a loving way?18.Irrespective of your religion, polygamy is not the solution to your insatiable sexual appetite. It will ultimately cost you more for less satisfaction and joy19.How have you secured your wife and children against the predators of your properties, assets and estates? Do you have a will?20.Taking your wife through the pain and rigour of divorce because you have found a ‘sweet sixteen’ is not the way to go. Most men who change women like diapers end up miserable also as they become serial divorcees.Friends, it is high time we tell ourselves the Unclad truth. If you want to enjoy being married, be responsible. There is alot of responsibility that God placed on men. Let us see what God expect of husbands in the Bible;“…..Love your wife, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself forit’’ Ephesians 5 Vs 25If you appreciate how much Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it, you will know the magnitude of responsibility on you as a husband and father. An irresponsible husband is likely to be an irresponsible father and you know Christ is not like you!“…..love your wife as your own body. He who loves his wife loves himself”Ephesians 5 Vs 28It is in your own interest to love your wife. If you love her you love yourself‘’…….dwell with them with understanding, giving honour to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered”1 Peter 3 Vs 7Simply put, you hinder yourself by the way you treat your wife!If it is true that man was created in the image and likeness of God, guys, it is time we wake up to the expectation of our maker. I doff my cap to husbands who are responsible and doing quite alot to make their marriages work. God will bless you the more and encourage you. Your labour will not be invain. Amen!

SMART WAYS OF WOOING GIRLS IN PUBLIC BUSES.

In Lagos, the girls are beautiful and smart. They can easily spot and rebuff a guy preying on them from a distance. But Lagos guys are proving to be smarter. They too have devised a way of getting their heart desires–even in a public bus.Lagos-DanfoThe guy arrived at the motor park and met a half filled Danfo bus with a few passengers. We were all waiting patiently at the Ikeja bus stop. The bus heading to Obalende on Lagos Island was taking too long to fill up. But what can we do but wait?The motor park milled with people. Area boys and street urchins were harassing drivers and conductors. Vendors of beverages were shouting themselves hoarse and practically coercing agitated passengers for patronage.In my end of the bus, I poked my head outside to avoid the I-don’t-know-strange odour emitting from the bus. Another sweaty guy has just arrived; He stood outside and surveyed the bus I look at him closely. He was disheveled. There was a gaping wound in his arm which he had not bothered to treat. Then to my horror, he mounted the bus and headed for my direction.I prayed silently for him to change his mind. But he sat close to me and for a moment, I was almost choking. I poked my nose out of the window to avoid the stench only to be confronted by a beggar who pleaded for money to cure his prostate cancer. A bag of urine with a tube dangled loosely from his groin. Much as I had tried to avoid the bedlam around me, I was confronted from all sides by the chaos.Then, from the gloom appeared an angelic figure that seemed to have come to take all my troubles away. Yes, she was a thing of beauty. Her figure eight was visible under the tight gown she wore. Eyes turned in her direction as she stood outside the door of the bus. She enjoyed the attention.She peered in and surveyed the ramshackle inside. Realizing how dirty the bus was, her face broke out in a frown. But she entered nonetheless. She picked a seat in front of me and sat gingerly–aware of the attention. I observed her closely as she whipped out a top range Samsung phone and began fiddling with it like a toy. Her nails were out of this world. Beautifully designed. She handled the phones stylishly.All the while, her jaw moved to the rhythm of a mouthful of candy. In the midst of my obsession with the beau, I had forgotten about the guy that had stood outside of the bus all this while. He had been aiming for the seat beside the conductor.He did not want to ‘’enter inside’’. But all that changed as soon as the girl moved inside the bus. Like a bolt out of the blue, the guy who had all the while been standing at the door had appeared beside the girl. So that is the trick. You stand long enough at the door to see which babe is agreeable enough. Then as soon as you spot one, you spring into action like a tiger and sit beside her. The guy initiated a conversation but the girl was not responding.Occasionally, she will remove her earpiece when the guy ask a question or say something. She will put them back even as the guy kept pestering her. At a time she would laugh, at another, she frowned or ignored him altogether.Then finally she removed the earpiece and the discussion seemed to come alive.I was thinking to myself. I like this guy, his tenacity and perseverance. The girl had been putting up a front., but it soon dissolved like sugar in hot tea with the guy’s persistence.In a Obalende, I watched as the two alighted and walked together for a moment and stood laughing to exchange numbers. Some guys can be very smart.

"I Refuse to Bring Myself Down to His Level, I don't Know Gideon Okeke" Tonto

Speaking with Channels TV, Tonto said she's never heard of actor Gideon Okeke, who shaded her on Twitter two days ago after photos from her introduction ceremony were released online..."The truth be told, I don't know who he is. They had to bring a picture of him to say this is the person and when I saw the picture, I recognized that he's been the one... I do not know him, and I refuse to bring myself to his level to speak about him. I wish him the best in life. That's all I can say" she said. Watch the video after the cut...

BEER 101

BEER 101:
HOW TO POUR A BEER

Pouring beer is an art, and definitely part of the overall tasting experience. It is always suggest that you drink a beer out of a glass, and recommend that you read Glassware for Beer. It's a great primer to understating why, and a guide guide to pairing a beer to its appropriate glass.

The following demonstrates the most common pouring technique which can be applied to most beers and glassware types. You'll also find that most bartenders pour draught beer as follows too.

Steps to a Perfect Pint

1. Use a clean glass. A dirty glass, containing oils, dirt or residuals from a previous beer, may inhibit head creation and flavours.
2. Hold your glass at a 45° angle. Pour the beer, targeting the middle of the slope of the glass. Don't be afraid to pour hard or add some air between the bottle and glass.
3. At the half-way point bring the glass at a 90° angle and continue to pour in the middle of the glass. This will induce the perfect foam head. 4.And remember, having a head on a beer is a good thing. It releases the beer's aromatics and adds to the overall presentation. You may also want to gradually add distance between the bottle and glass as you pour, to also inspire a good head. An ideal head should be 1" to 1-1/2".

With bottled conditioned beers, that may have a considerable amount of yeast in the bottle, you may wish to watch closely as you pour ... if you don't like yeast in your poured beer. However, this is the highlight of some beers and actually wanted. Just note that the inclusion of yeast will alter the clearness and taste of your poured beer, and lively yeast is high in vitamins and nutrients!

SINGER JAYWON AND A MUSIC PROMOTER ROBBED THIS MORNING.

Singer Jaywon and a music promoter were early hours of this morning robbed around Okokomaiko at one of the community bad roads with damaging pot holes. The singer and the music promoter were returning back to surulere from a show held at Okokomaiko when the incident happened. According to a source in the know, the incident happened around 3.30am this morning when the car they were in slowed down at the very bad road. Some boys came out from nowhere, broke the car’s windscreen demanded for what they had. They shouted give us your chains, wristwatches, phones, cash and everything you have on you, the source said. They took everything from them, he added.So if you have been trying to reach Jaywon all day on his phone, now you know what happened to him. May the Lord help them recover all by blessing them with more

"I AM RICHER THAN GATES" E. A ADEBAYO

Apparently referring to his spiritual endowment, the general overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), Pastor Enoch Adejare Adeboye, has said that he is richer than one of the world’s richest men, Bill Gates.Teaching the worshippers in the mission during the church’s 63rd Annual Convention on Saturday shortly before the Holy Communion Service on the topic; “Overflowing Cup,” Pastor Adeboye said that if Bill Gates needs shoes, he would have to go to the market to buy them, but that if he should announce that he needs shoes at the Redemption Camp, where the convention took place, the auditorium might not contain the shoes people would donate to him.“I have houses in at least 188 countries of the world, where we have our churches, so I am richer than Bill Gates. Each time I visit these countries, my children would be struggling and saying ‘daddy, come and stay with me.’“ If I announce here that tomorrow morning, I need a car to travel to the new auditorium, how many cars do you think would be made available to me by you my children? Those of you that do not have a car of your own, very soon, God will give you your own cars. So, I am appealing to you to become an incurable soul winner before you leave this convention ground and your cup will overflow,” he said.The man of God had earlier used the occasion to warn that any of the mission’s provinces with the dirtiest hostels at the camp would not be allowed to attend next year’s convention, and advised that people should tidy up their dormitories.Meanwhile, a total of 104 children, comprising 49 boys and 55 girls, were delivered at the camp ground of the mission as at Saturday, 8th August.The Friday, August 7 Convention/Holy Ghost Service, which attracted millions of people from all over the country, and which caused heavy traffic gridlock along Lagos-Ibadan Expressway, witnessed salvation, testimonies, prayers, songs and healing, where the lame walked and the sick got healed.There were also many powerful testimonies during the Friday Holy Ghost service, with a woman testifying of how she was healed of cancer, while another woman, who was barren for 20 years, said God eventually gave her a set of twins through the ministry of Pastor Adeboye.Another lady, who was possessed by a marine spirit, also gave a testimony of how God delivered her and she vomited two keys, which she showed to the congregation as proof.Also testifying, Benue State governor, Samuel Ortom, said that he dropped out of school in 1979 and became a motor park tout, but that he is now a holder of a doctorate degree and a worker in RCCG.He said, “Pastor Enoch Adeboye prayed for me concerning my ambition to become governor and it came to pass after many years of my attempt to hold a public office”.In his sermon, Pastor Adeboye assured the congregation that God is sufficient in all ways, adding that God can reverse all the irreversible and solve all their problems if they obey Him.Welcoming the vice president, Professor Osinbajo to the convention on Saturday, Pastor Adeboye stated that he is not just a pastor in the mission, but that the VP is also one of the mission’s ushers, who minister during special occasions.“I don’t know why he was not allowed to officiate during the convention. I hope he would do so during the congress in December. I want you to send our regards to President Muhammadu Buhari and we want him to join us next time,” he added.Daddy Adeboye, as he is fondly called, used the opportunity to urge the worshippers to always pray for the Nigerian Army so that they could help defeat all the enemies of the country.It would be recalled that this year’s convention is tagged, ‘The All Sufficient God’ and ended with thanksgiving service on Sunday August 9 at the mission’s new camp ground situated in Shimawa Area.Dignitaries at this year’s event included, Nigeria’s Vice President, Professor Yemi Osinbajo, Benue State Governor, Mr. Samuel Ortom and his wife, Ondo State Governor, Mr. Segun Mimiko, Governor of Lagos State, Mr. Akinwunmi amongst others.

BUHARI TO PROBE ARMS PURCHASE UNDER JONATHAN

President Muhammadu Buhari will order an investigation into contracts involving the procurement of weapons for the military under the Goodluck Jonathan administration.The Senior Special Assistant to the President on Media and Publicity, Garba Shehu, disclosed this while featuring on a Channels Television programme, Politics Today, on Sunday evening. Shehu spoke a few days after the immediate past Chief of Defence Staff, Alex Badeh, said he led a military that was ill-equipped.A former National Security Adviser, Col. Sambo Dasuki (retd.), had also said while some weapons and equipment procured by the administration of former President Goodluck Jonathan were used to fight insurgency during the latter days of his tenure, some others were still being awaited.The presidential spokesman said Buhari was interested in taking stock of every naira that left the national treasury and for what purpose. He said Nigerians were aware that books were already being checked and the exercise was not limited to the oil sector.He said, “The President is interested in every penny that leaves the Nigeria’s treasury.“As you are aware, records are being checked right now, not only in the oil sector, but also in the various departments of g overnment.“So, Mr. President is really interested in what has happened to the equipment that have supposedly been bought and supplied, some of which might be there on the ground or might not be.“Only a thorough audit will actually reveal this. The disclosure has been made about substandard (equipment) in the Nigeria’s fight against Boko Haram.”Shehu reiterated Buhari’s desire to urgently end the activities of the Boko Haram sect. While saying that normalcy is gradually being restored, the presidential spokesman noted that there is currently no territory in the control of Boko Haram.“The insurgents have been degraded. They are in disarray without a central command and coordination,” he declared.Shehu said the President would not send troops to the warfront without ensuring that they are properly equipped and taken care of.“Just on Friday, at the National Defence College, Mr. President was committing himself to the fact that our military will be well taken care of in terms of their welfare, in terms of their equipment and in terms of the motivation they need to confront these insurgents.“We are already beginning to see the fruits of this because as we speak right now, Boko Haram is in disarray.“And what we are witnessing now; that is, occasional bombings and suicide attacks, characterise only one thing globally. And that is that, the dying days of the insurgency. It’s just a matter of time, we’ll get there,” he said.